Showing posts with label Sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sex. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 26, 2020

Elizabeth Gilbert City of Girls


Elizabeth M. Gilbert (born July 18, 1969) is an American author. She is best known for her 2006 memoir, Eat, Pray, Love, which as of December 2010 had spent 199 weeks on the New York Times Best Seller list, and which was also made into a film by the same name in 2010.


"Life is both fleeting and dangerous, and there is no point in denying yourself pleasure, or being anything other than what you are."

Beloved author Elizabeth Gilbert returns to fiction with a unique love story set in the New York City theater world during the 1940s. Told from the perspective of an older woman as she looks back on her youth with both pleasure and regret (but mostly pleasure), City of Girls explores themes of female sexuality and promiscuity, as well as the idiosyncrasies of true love.

In 1940, nineteen-year-old Vivian Morris has just been kicked out of Vassar College, owing to her lackluster freshman-year performance. Her affluent parents send her to Manhattan to live with her Aunt Peg, who owns a flamboyant, crumbling midtown theater called the Lily Playhouse. There Vivian is introduced to an entire cosmos of unconventional and charismatic characters, from the fun-chasing showgirls to a sexy male actor, a grand-dame actress, a lady-killer writer, and no-nonsense stage manager. But when Vivian makes a personal mistake that results in professional scandal, it turns her new world upside down in ways that it will take her years to fully understand. Ultimately, though, it leads her to a new understanding of the kind of life she craves - and the kind of freedom it takes to pursue it. It will also lead to the love of her life, a love that stands out from all the rest.

Now eighty-nine years old and telling her story at last, Vivian recalls how the events of those years altered the course of her life - and the gusto and autonomy with which she approached it. "At some point in a woman's life, she just gets tired of being ashamed all the time," she muses. "After that, she is free to become whoever she truly is." Written with a powerful wisdom about human desire and connection, City of Girls is a love story like no other.

Get your hands on a gorgeous copy HERE.  (Look inside the 'Books' catagory)


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Thursday, October 30, 2014

Tim Cook Speaks Up Comes Out


Best part of his essay.

My Queasy Jian Ghomeshi Disappointment

We might act like it does not take a leap of courage to get naked (or partially undressed) and physical with another human, but the truth is, it does.  It's an act of faith and trust.  We are vulnerable. Each person trusting the other with tenderness, love, physicality, physical nurturing, a union of sensual instinct; a chemical calling - a sexual experience.  Privacy. Confidentiality. Loyalty. 

I'm queasy over all the news about Jian Ghomeshi. With a capital 'Q'.




Why oh why did this have to be Jian? Ladies and Gentlemen, you know we think he's hot. Sexy. Smart. We have listened in and thoroughly enjoyed him. We marvel in his talent. Canadians, we were (ARE) so proud to call him our own. 

My post today is not whether we all believe or disbelieve. (You can read Jian's comments below and all the current Jian news here.)  It's about how disappointed I am that women continue to be hurt sexually, physically, financially, emotionally and verbally - everywhere every day.

Consent or not. 

And they are afraid to come forward. Nervous about 'telling'. 

I am sickened by it. Nauseous. 

When we give ourselves to another it's because we feel something. Something good. 

Please stop fucking with this. 

Queasy, 
Patti




This is the very short post from Jian Ghomeshi's Facebook Oct. 30, 2014:

I want to thank you for your support and assure you that I intend to meet these allegations directly.

I don’t intend to discuss this matter any further with the media.

This is the post from Jian Ghomeshi's Facebook Oct. 26, 2014:

Dear everyone,

I am writing today because I want you to be the first to know some news.

This has been the hardest time of my life. I am reeling from the loss of my father. I am in deep personal pain and worried about my mom. And now my world has been rocked by so much more. 

Today, I was fired from the CBC.

For almost 8 years I have been the host of a show I co-created on CBC called Q. It has been my pride and joy. My fantastic team on Q are super-talented and have helped build something beautiful.

I have always operated on the principle of doing my best to maintain a dignity and a commitment to openness and truth, both on and off the air. I have conducted major interviews, supported Canadian talent, and spoken out loudly in my audio essays about ideas, issues, and my love for this country. All of that is available for anyone to hear or watch. I have known, of course, that not everyone always agrees with my opinions or my style, but I've never been anything but honest. I have doggedly defended the CBC and embraced public broadcasting. This is a brand I’ve been honoured to help grow.

All this has now changed.

Today I was fired from the company where I've been working for almost 14 years – stripped from my show, barred from the building and separated from my colleagues. I was given the choice to walk away quietly and to publicly suggest that this was my decision. But I am not going to do that. Because that would be untrue. Because I’ve been fired. And because I've done nothing wrong.

I’ve been fired from the CBC because of the risk of my private sex life being made public as a result of a campaign of false allegations pursued by a jilted ex girlfriend and a freelance writer.

As friends and family of mine, you are owed the truth.

I have commenced legal proceedings against the CBC, what’s important to me is that you know what happened and why.

Forgive me if what follows may be shocking to some.

I have always been interested in a variety of activities in the bedroom but I only participate in sexual practices that are mutually agreed upon, consensual, and exciting for both partners.

About two years ago I started seeing a woman in her late 20s. Our relationship was affectionate, casual and passionate. We saw each other on and off over the period of a year and began engaging in adventurous forms of sex that included role-play, dominance and submission. We discussed our interests at length before engaging in rough sex (forms of BDSM). We talked about using safe words and regularly checked in with each other about our comfort levels. She encouraged our role-play and often was the initiator. We joked about our relations being like a mild form of Fifty Shades of Grey or a story from Lynn Coady's Giller-Prize winning book last year. I don’t wish to get into any more detail because it is truly not anyone's business what two consenting adults do. I have never discussed my private life before. Sexual preferences are a human right.

Despite a strong connection between us it became clear to me that our on-and-off dating was unlikely to grow into a larger relationship and I ended things in the beginning of this year. She was upset by this and sent me messages indicating her disappointment that I would not commit to more, and her anger that I was seeing others.

After this, in the early spring there began a campaign of harassment, vengeance and demonization against me that would lead to months of anxiety.

It came to light that a woman had begun anonymously reaching out to people that I had dated (via Facebook) to tell them she had been a victim of abusive relations with me. In other words, someone was reframing what had been an ongoing consensual relationship as something nefarious. I learned – through one of my friends who got in contact with this person – that someone had rifled through my phone on one occasion and taken down the names of any woman I had seemed to have been dating in recent years. This person had begun methodically contacting them to try to build a story against me. Increasingly, female friends and ex-girlfriends of mine told me about these attempts to smear me.

Someone also began colluding with a freelance writer who was known not to be a fan of mine and, together, they set out to try to find corroborators to build a case to defame me. She found some sympathetic ears by painting herself as a victim and turned this into a campaign. The writer boldly started contacting my friends, acquaintances and even work colleagues – all of whom came to me to tell me this was happening and all of whom recognized it as a trumped up way to attack me and undermine my reputation. Everyone contacted would ask the same question, if I had engaged in non-consensual behavior why was the place to address this the media?

The writer tried to peddle the story and, at one point, a major Canadian media publication did due diligence but never printed a story. One assumes they recognized these attempts to recast my sexual behaviour were fabrications. Still, the spectre of mud being flung onto the Internet where online outrage can demonize someone before facts can refute false allegations has been what I've had to live with.

And this leads us to today and this moment. I’ve lived with the threat that this stuff would be thrown out there to defame me. And I would sue. But it would do the reputational damage to me it was intended to do (the ex has even tried to contact me to say that she now wishes to refute any of these categorically untrue allegations). But with me bringing it to light, in the coming days you will prospectively hear about how I engage in all kinds of unsavoury aggressive acts in the bedroom. And the implication may be made that this happens non-consensually. And that will be a lie. But it will be salacious gossip in a world driven by a hunger for "scandal". And there will be those who choose to believe it and to hate me or to laugh at me. And there will be an attempt to pile on. And there will be the claim that there are a few women involved (those who colluded with my ex) in an attempt to show a "pattern of behaviour". And it will be based in lies but damage will be done. But I am telling you this story in the hopes that the truth will, finally, conquer all.

I have been open with the CBC about this since these categorically untrue allegations ramped up. I have never believed it was anyone's business what I do in my private affairs but I wanted my bosses to be aware that this attempt to smear me was out there. CBC has been part of the team of friends and lawyers assembled to deal with this for months. On Thursday I voluntarily showed evidence that everything I have done has been consensual. I did this in good faith and because I know, as I have always known, that I have nothing to hide. This when the CBC decided to fire me.

CBC execs confirmed that the information provided showed that there was consent. In fact, they later said to me and my team that there is no question in their minds that there has always been consent. They said they’re not concerned about the legal side. But then they said that this type of sexual behavior was unbecoming of a prominent host on the CBC. They said that I was being dismissed for "the risk of the perception that may come from a story that could come out." To recap, I am being fired in my prime from the show I love and built and threw myself into for years because of what I do in my private life.

Let me be the first to say that my tastes in the bedroom may not be palatable to some folks. They may be strange, enticing, weird, normal, or outright offensive to others. We all have our secret life. But that is my private life. That is my personal life. And no one, and certainly no employer, should have dominion over what people do consensually in their private life.

And so, with no formal allegations, no formal complaints, no complaints, not one, to the HR department at the CBC (they told us they’d done a thorough check and were satisfied), and no charges, I have lost my job based on a campaign of vengeance. Two weeks after the death of my beautiful father I have been fired from the CBC because of what I do in my private life.

I have loved the CBC. The Q team are the best group of people in the land. My colleagues and producers and on-air talent at the CBC are unparalleled in being some of the best in the business. I have always tried to be a good soldier and do a good job for my country. I am still in shock. But I am telling this story to you so the truth is heard. And to bring an end to the nightmare.




Editor's Note:  I enjoyed this article from Jannie Robinson -  Why the Jian Ghomeshi case could be a blessing in disguise.

Patti Friday, Photojourno, reporting from inside 'The Art Dept.' at the international 'Embassy of Ideas'. Reading. Listening. Learning. Improving. Hanging out with successful people. Photographer. Pirate. Bubby. CANADA @pattifriday

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Lovers Like Thunder Colour Theme Decor














Like a storm that rolls in
that you sense
you know it's coming
your skin sweats
loud and wild and drenched

Painting in my shop!

PFXO


Patti Friday, Photojourno, reporting from inside 'The Art Dept.' at the international 'Embassy of Ideas'. Reading. Listening. Learning. Improving. Hanging out with successful people. Photographer. Pirate. Bubby. CANADA @pattifriday

Thursday, February 13, 2014

I Crave Your Mouth


I crave your mouth, your voice, your hair.
Silent and starving, I prowl through the streets.
Bread does not nourish me, dawn disrupts me, all day
I hunt for the liquid measure of your steps.
I hunger for your sleek laugh,
your hands the color of a savage harvest,
hunger for the pale stones of your fingernails,
I want to eat your skin like a whole almond.
I want to eat the sunbeam flaring in your lovely body,
the sovereign nose of your arrogant face,
I want to eat the fleeting shade of your lashes,
and I pace around hungry, sniffing the twilight,
hunting for you, for your hot heart,
Like a puma in the barrens of Quitratue.

- Pablo Neruda

More LOVE Poems here.

Patti Friday, Photojourno, reporting from inside 'The Art Dept.' at the international 'Embassy of Ideas'. Reading. Listening. Learning. Improving. Hanging out with successful people. Photographer. Pirate. Bubby. CANADA @pattifriday

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

The Most Romantic Valentine's Gift



What do you dream about or remember when you think of a 'Prophet Man'
These are selected poems from a year of love, lies, loss and life. 
Poetry is sexy! 
Could this be the perfect Valentine's gift?

Reading poetry to your LOVER is very sexy and romantic.

I am happy to offer my eBook of selected poems for $2 this week.

You may purchase it here. Great for mobile/tablets too!

Love to you,
Patti
xo


Patti Friday, Photojourno, reporting from inside 'The Art Dept.' at the international 'Embassy of Ideas'. Reading. Listening. Learning. Improving. Hanging out with successful people. Photographer. Pirate. Bubby. CANADA @pattifriday

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Madonna Book



"halal in the streets haram in the sheets"

Patti Friday, Photojourno, reporting from inside 'The Art Dept.' at the international 'Embassy of Ideas'.

Monday, May 27, 2013

Blue Is The Warmest Colour Wins Cannes Palme d'Or 2013


The Palme d'Or (English: Golden Palm) is the highest prize awarded at the Cannes Film Festival and is presented to the director of the best feature film of the official competition. It was introduced in 1955 by the organizing committee. From 1939 to 1954, the highest prize was the Grand Prix du Festival International du Film. From 1964 to 1974, it was replaced once again, by the Grand Prix du Festival.

In this tender, bittersweet, full-color graphic novel, a young woman named Clementine discovers herself and the elusive magic of love when she meets a confident blue-haired girl named Emma: a lesbian love story for the ages that bristles with the energy of youth and rebellion and the eternal light of desire.








First published in French by Belgium's Glénat, the book has won several awards, including the Audience Prize at the Angoulême International Comics Festival, Europe's largest.

Blue Is the Warmest Colour (FrenchLa Vie d'Adèle – "The Life of Adèle") is a 2013 French drama film written, produced and directed by Abdellatif Kechiche. Winner of the Palme d'Or at the 2013 Cannes Film Festival. The film is based on the French graphic novel Le Bleu est une couleur chaude ("blue is a warm colour"), by Julie Maroh.

Julie Maroh is an author and illustrator originally from northern France.

Book is now in my cozy bookshop! Here.



Patti Friday, Photojourno, reporting from inside 'The Art Dept.' at the international 'Embassy of Ideas'.


Cinemood White

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Kama Sutra The Getaway Kit


Bought this for a weekend anniversary getaway with my wife. She absolutely loved it. The portions of each item are big enough so that there is plenty left for a few more special nights. Great kit, we loved it. - Aaron

The Getaway Kit Includes : French Vanilla Crème Body Soufflé 1.8oz, Vanilla Crème Oil of Love 1.8 fl oz,Sweet Honeysuckle Honey Dust with a feather applicator, Love Liquid water-based Lubricant 1 fl oz, a Romance Candle and a small black zip travel pouch.




Patti Friday, Photojourno, reporting from inside 'The Art Dept.' at the international 'Embassy of Ideas'.

Friday, February 3, 2012

Friday Night Sexpot

























The Postman only rang once and (s)he left me Nudie Mags!  I love getting manila* packages, don't you? These raw and real zines came to me in a brown  envelope; teasing me to open it quickly.  Inside I discovered a lovely note and some damn dandy art pieces. Yes. These zines are pure art. He's a modern day Hef. Ahem. (He films his photo shoots and makes sexy bitty movies.)

Tsurufoto is the zine creations & photographical field observations of Aaron Driggers! Join him in his celebration of all things beautiful, weird, & wonderful in his new zine, appropriately titled TSURUFOTO NUDIEZINE!!! 


That's right, a zine! He essentially took his photography, the idea of a classic Playboy (photosets combined with articles), and the old DIY punk zines, mixed it all together (tsuru-style), and built a 5 1/2" x 8 1/2", black & white photocopied zine including but not limited to... 
3 full photo sets - one of which gets to be the centerfold! 

Articles, Crafts, and/or Games and other bits of awesome naughty randomness! 

P.S. Please be sure to visit Aaron's muse, his wife's store, the ridiculously talented TsuruBride at http://tsurubride.etsy.com She makes amazing metallic leather designs! 

The manila component of the name comes from manila hemp or abacá, from which manila folders were originally made. "Manila" refers to the capital of the Philippines, one of the main producers of abacá.